The subtle smile playing on their lips, the soft brush of their hand against yours, the sneaky glances they send your way. A lot of us find ourselves wondering what it might all mean.
Though many might say that these are all obvious signs someone has a crush on you, there’s no way to know for sure if someone likes you unless they come out and say it. After all, we don’t want to embarrass ourselves by jumping to conclusions and misinterpreting their actions.
1. THEY’RE CONSTANTLY LOOKING AT YOU
Have you ever caught someone looking at you from across the room? Chances are, they tried to divert their attention elsewhere, because let’s admit it, it’s embarrassing getting caught staring at someone. Some people, on the other hand, keep their eye contact right on you. It’s pretty intense, but they make it crystal clear it’s you they were looking at.
The way a person makes eye contact with you can be very telling of the feelings that they have for you. Not being able to hold your gaze and quickly looking away while you’re talking to them may indicate a hidden attraction, as well as letting their eyes linger and staring at you when they think you’re not looking. This shows that they have a crush on you but may be too nervous or embarrassed to let you know.
2. THEY TRY TO GET CLOSE TO YOU
Another definite sign that someone may be harboring a secret crush on you is if they always try to get close to you. After all, it’s only natural to want to be around the person we like. Even if we don’t have anything to say to them, we just like having them in close proximity and watching them from the corner of our eye.
A lot of us even go out of our way sometimes just to see them or pretend to run into them, hoping to catch their attention and strike up a conversation with them. This is especially true if the person who has feelings for you is shy and soft-spoken.
3. THEY FIND EXCUSES TO TALK TO YOU
If someone’s into you, they’ve probably texted you some pretty random messages. They might even ask you for help on homework or to study for a test—any excuse to be in your proximity is their main goal. Thinking back on your past conversations, do any of these examples resonate? If yes, they’re definitely crushing on you.
4. THEY ACT DIFFERENTLY AROUND YOU
Does this person act differently around you compared to how they usually are with other people? Do you notice a change in their personality whenever you’re around? Perhaps they become more cheerful and talkative, or maybe quieter and more reserved.
Whatever that change may be, if someone acts differently around you even when you’re already close, one of the most likely reasons why is that they have a crush on you. They’re attracted to you and it’s making them feel flustered and uncertain about how to act around you.
5. THEY COMPLIMENT YOU
When someone likes you, they want to make you feel beautiful, both inside and out. If someone’s asked if you changed your hair, are wearing a new outfit, or told you that you look good that day, it’s pretty obvious they’re into you. They might have even told you they like your laugh, how smart you are, or something else along those lines.
While compliments may seem like an obvious sign that someone is seriously crushing on you, many of us tend to chalk it up to friendliness instead of romantic interest and try not to read into it too much, especially if it’s coming from a friend. But the mere fact that they pay such close attention to you in the first place just goes to show how much they like you
6. THEY ALWAYS INITIATE CONTACT
Has this person ever asked for your number or followed you on one of your social media accounts? Do they usually text you or call you up first, even if they don’t really have anything important to say to you? Then that’s a clear sign that they’re interested in you! By reaching out to you and initiating contact, they are voicing a desire to communicate and keep in touch with you.
They want to get closer to you and spend more time with you, even when you’re not together, because they like you and they find you fun and interesting to talk to.
7. THEY TRY TO MAKE YOU LAUGH
A person who likes you will try to make you laugh and will also laugh at the things you say. Whether they’re making fun of themselves or make silly comments in your presence, their main goal is to get you to giggle. Laughing makes us feel good, so it only makes sense the person crushing on you would like to make you happy.
8. THEY SMILE AT YOU, A LOT
Another tell-tale sign someone likes you is if you notice them smiling at you a lot more than they do around other people. It could be a bashful little smile, showing that they are nervous but happy to see you, or a wide, ear-to-ear grin that conveys their excitement being around you. Whichever it may be, pay attention to whether or not they smile this way only when they see you, talk to you, or talk about you because it definitely means that they feel attracted to you.
9. THEY KEEP THE CONVERSATION GOING
Here’s another trick you can use to try to see if someone is secretly crushing on you: when you’re talking to them, disengage from the conversation. You can do it subtly by letting your eyes glaze over, looking somewhere else, or responding more curtly or you can act distracted and do something else like writing, packing, or talking to someone else. Either way, see if they keep the conversation going. While most people will leave politely almost right away, someone who has a crush on you will likely keep trying to talk to you still. They want to spend as much time with you as they can and are eager to start up the conversation again when you’re interrupted or you have to leave.
10. THEY MAKE THEMSELVES AVAILABLE FOR YOU
Finally, but perhaps most importantly, making time for someone and prioritizing them in your life is the kind of thing that we only do for the people we really like and care about. So, if this person makes themselves available for you all the time, take it as a sign that they definitely have feelings for you.
Do they say yes to everything you invite them to? Or ask you to spend time with them often? Do they cancel or reschedule appointments just to be with you? That means that you’re really important to them and they would rather spend time with you than do anything else.
So, have you noticed someone showing these signs lately? Do you think someone in your life may be secretly crushing on you? Let us know, down in the comments below.